This particular issue has been on my heart for quite some time now; years even. How many of us have “TRUE” friends? I bet like me, most of you can count your true friends on one hand. Some of us may not even need that many! Many of us go day to day interacting with people who honestly do not have our best interest at heart. We surround ourselves with people who secretly wish you harm or at least want you to stay at or below them. Whenever something good comes your way, you are hesitant to be “too” happy because the moment gets a little uncomfortable! One thing that really irritates me is those friends who always need something from you but are never around to return the favor. In my opinion every relationship should be as close to a 50/50 partnership as possible. Of course at times one person may be better off and can do more than the other; but come on, I know that all of us have those friends who rarely come through when you need them. I have had the experience of having friends that I would support through anything. Graduations, birthdays, baby showers, I was there. Every time they had an issue with a boyfriend, I’d stay on the other end of the line for hours, consoling and giving the best advice that I could. I became so wrapped up in their lives, it was difficult to focus on my own. I slowly began to realize that whenever I had an important event in my life or needed someone, they were not there. Many of them did not even know what was going on with me because most of our time together was spent talking about their lives. I am a little wiser now, and I have decided to live my life by the “weeding out” process. No more will I become consumed in helping those who do not want to help themselves so you know they can’t help you. Friendships are not about what a person can do for you, but I will not continue to surround myself with individuals who live by the “take, take, take” policy. I am sick and tired of the sappy stories on why they couldn’t make it to yet another get together. No more sorry I couldn’t make it to your birthday gathering or graduation; No more putting up with those who don’t call back and are constantly a “no show”. Apparently all of these years they have felt that their time and existence on this earth has meant more than mine. Well hell, I am tired and I should be. I deserve to be treated the same way that I treat others; with love and respect. I am grateful to still have friends that love me and care about my well-being. I know who will be there when I need them and that is all that matters. In this life we have no time to be overwhelmed with unnecessary mess! We must surround ourselves by positive things in order to have positive outcomes. We don’t need to commit ourselves to those who are constantly tugging on our pant leg. Find those who will be willing to give you a lift! For those of you who are good friends “God bless”; For those of you under construction, “Keep working on it”; For those of you only concerned with yourself, “Keep it moving”.