As I engage in conversation with family and friends, a common topic reoccurs. It seems that everyone feels like they should be doing more! I believe it is human nature to continue to strive for better. At times, I think we all feel stagnant. We become stuck in our routines, but then, there is that “thing” that keeps inviting itself back into our thoughts. Some of us hide it better and refuse to let it stay too long. For others, it haunts us, hangs over us like a dark cloud until we can’t resist the craving of sunshine. So many of us, including myself have a fear of letting go and trusting the process. We want it all figured out before we take a step. If you think about it, how interesting would the journey be if we knew each part of the path. What is exciting, is God has given us these precious gifts; tailored to each one of us. We just have to step out on faith and know that he did not create us to fail. As I prepared myself to start this day, there was one word that replayed itself over and again in my mind…DARE. I thought; Dare to be great. Dare to try something new. Dare to follow what your heart tells you. Dare to challenge the norm. I created this acronym to break down some essential steps towards living a more fulfilled life.  I am learning to live by these things. I want to share these steps with you I hope that it helps someone get closer to their purpose!

Dream in purpose.

                       Accept the gift that God has chosen for you.

                        Remove all the things working against you.

             Expect great things to come.

Let this marinate. This can be achieved in different ways. We all have different paths, but the goal is the same. We all want to live a more purpose driven life. Please tell me what D.A.R.E. means to you! I will go more in depth with this concept in further posts. Remember…The Truth is Better Naked!!

The “Mess”age

 Hello world! It has been quite a while since I last shared by thoughts with you. We can become so boggled down with the weight of our “Obligations” that we forget to take time out to exercise our passions. So much has occurred  that has yet to be recorded or assessed. I now have a wonderful husband, beautiful family, and a career. When you tie together marriage, children, and a career it can make for a very busy life. Although these parts of my life are absolutely gratifying and adventurous, there is still that longing to follow my purpose. The funny thing about purpose is that it can be buried deep for years and years. We can smother it with our pillows when we refuse to dream. We can hide it under our desks while we work on an important assignment. It’s often washed away by tears when we fight with our significant others. We find ways to ensure that time spent on the inevitable is postponed until we get everything else out of the way.

Why are we so easily distracted if our purpose is so important to us? Is it fear of the unknown? Maybe we are afraid that if we go after that “thing” that is most important and fail, we will never recover. So we collect stuff and we carry it around. We place it in categories. We complain about it. We discuss it with friends. We lose sleep over it. This stuff has no baring on who we are as human beings but we allow it to shape our entire existence. This “stuff” keeps us occupied. Too busy for trivial things, like dreaming of a better life! Or shall I say a more fulfilled one. It is not until the load gets too heavy to bare that we start to prioritize. Some of us are able to carry a lot more than others before we have the MOMENT. You know the one that puts everything in perspective.

I remember Oprah speaking about God’s little whispers a few years back. God will softly warn us about the mess we are creating. Many of us do not hear him until that whisper turns into a bullhorn or a natural disaster. We do what we want and what we think is best no matter the cost. Again, some of us learn faster than others. Our journeys are all different but meant to accomplish the same thing…Our best. We are meant to leap and take chances. We are here to keep on until we reach that “thing” that God has for us. It is not a matter of fact. It is not black or white. We start, stop, and start again. We can fall short and we can regress. There is no guide book to follow. We just have to trust the process. I remember reading a quote… “We do not have to know how we are going to do it, just that we are going to do it.” So this piece represents a step forward for me. I hope that it reaches one person who is contemplating their own journey today. Remember, we are born for greatness and each day is an opportunity to be Great!

A servant’s Prayer

Dear lord give me the courage and the wisdom to overcome the fear that constantly delays my journey. Let me not be concerned with the things that I don’t know or don’t have but stay fixated on my potential. I still have that spirit inside of me that will not let me rest until it is done. Now what that is; I am not sure, but dear God I will not stop until I know. I need your strength more than ever now. I pray that these words will float in the universe and ride the wings of angels.

Please don’t let me stand in my own way. I am excited about sharing my beauty with this world. I am elated about carrying out your purpose. I asked to be kept in your care and cradled in your love. I know it is up to me to stay because I know that you will never let me go. Let the negative and hurtful words of my enemies roll away like the tides of the ocean. Who shall I fear when I know who holds my future.

From the beginning to the deepest corner of my soul I ask thee to give me strength to finish this race; with open arms and a clean heart. I am determined because I believe in all that you have for me. I voice this prayer with total humility and faith in your power; in our savior’s name I pray Amen.

Birds of a Feather…

There has been something on my mind and I think it is time to unleash the dragon! Staying POSITIVE can be difficult if you continue to put yourself in unproductive environments. I have learned this the hard way. Sometimes we do not realize how much being around negative people can affect every aspect of our lives. When I say “negative people” this statement is all-inclusive! I am talking about co-workers, friends, lovers, and  family members. Sometimes it is hard to recognize what’s not for you.  Especially when it is someone you love. Many times we stay in situations because we get comfortable. It is easier to stick with what you know even when it is not healthy.

However or wherever you choose to spend your time, be aware that this helps shape you into who you are. Your actions and thoughts will reflect your environment. If you mingle with people who are content without having any goals or ambition, you will eventually  adopt some of these ideas. Many times we find ourselves sharing most of our time with negative people but secretly judging them. We believe that we are not like them or that we would never do the things that they do. Remember the saying “Birds of a feather flock together;” we are bound to espouse some of those same attitudes and actions. At the least, we are affected and over-involved in someone else’s mess. If that is the case, we may as well be doing it ourselves.

It is important to be cautious of where you are and who you are with at all times. Ask yourself, “Does ______ add to or enrich my life?” We need to spend time with those who make us better. If you are involved with anyone who constantly hurts you or puts you in bad situations, it may be time to pause and reflect. People who are good for you will bring happiness to your life and want the best for you. If there is someone you have in mind after reading this post, it might be a good time to complete a pros and cons analysis. Draw a line down the middle of a blank sheet of paper. Write all the positive that this person offers on one side and the negative on the other. If your results show more on the negative, it may be time to reconsider your relationship with this person.

I speak on this topic frequently throughout my blog because it is very important. In order for us to reach our full potential we may have to let go of things that are holding us back. I challenge you to complete a pros and cons analysis and see what you find. You may be surprised! Continue to work on what is best for you. Oh, and it is also possible after reading this post that you find that you are the negative person. If so, do an analysis of your self. It is also healthy to think about what role you play in the lives of others. We have to be aware of our strengths and weaknesses. It is essential to making progress towards positive change. If you feel encouraged by what you have read, please share it with others. “The truth is better naked!”

Give me a G!!!

Truthfully speaking, on a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your efforts of working on your desired goals? I would give myself around a 5! I realize that I must practice what I preach and start  writing down some measurable tasks! I wanted to share one of my goals and the measurable tasks I created to reach it. I hope that this will give you some ideas on how to jumpstart positive change for whatever calling you have on your heart.

Goal # 1: Have a Successful Blog

  • Write for at least 45min-1hr. each Sunday.
  • Post at least 1 piece each week to social media platforms.
  • Contact at least 3 people who may assist with expanding blog site by Aug. 1st.
  •  Read 3 blogs with similar ideas each month.
  • Email select pieces with 2-3 friend or co-workers each month.

These tasks may change and the list may increase. This is just an idea of how to put your goals into action. When you create measurable goals you are giving yourself a deadline. This will help you to stick to your plans and feel great about completing them. It is also a good idea to reward yourself when you complete a goal. This can give you motivation to complete tasks. Share your goals with others. It is important to have people in your life that share similar ideas. The better support systems that we have the more likely we are to see things through. It is also a good way to help others make postive change in their lives. I would love for you to share your goals with me. Who knows, we may be able to help each other! Remember to stay true to you and the rest will follow. It is time to put thought to action!

Is your FOF weighing you down?

I was talking to a friend the other day and we got on the subject of the fear of failure. We talked about how ridiculous the concept; but how it is such a mutual fear amongst so many people. What is it about failure that hinders us from reaching our full potential?

Many who have tried and failed, totally disregard the beauty in making an effort, and focus solely on the fact that they did not get what they wanted. We often expect that the first time we try something new we should get the results that we desire.

In one of my previous pieces, I spoke on “sinkers and swimmers”. A sinker is the person who gives up when faced with adversity. When things do not go according to plan, they lose interest or stop trying. This leaves a slot for the swimmer! The swimmer has faced many disappointments and failed attempts, but they keep trying. They keep going into the unknown.

I will never forget the conversation I had with this same friend about following our dreams. He said, “I may not be the smartest, or the best-looking, but I work hard for what I want”. He talked about people with undeniable talents and gifts that do not utilize them. He said, “the more of them that are not trying, the greater my chances”.

What he meant was; it makes it easier on the “swimmers” to stay afloat when most people would rather play it safe! I thought about myself and the gift of writing that God has blessed me with. How often I was using it and how it played a role in me living out my purpose. With that said, think about the talents and Gifts that you have been given. Are you using them? When is the last time you honestly thought about them? What is stopping you from following your heart?

What do you really have to lose, when you have your happiness to gain? I am learning to live a life without regrets when it comes to following my heart. Things may not go according to “your” plan, but you have to be aware of the bigger picture. I believe with all of my heart, that if we continue to try and not give-up we shall reach the happiness we long for. It is not too late to start your journey. Do not let FOF be your justification for wasting your life!

How are you writing your script?

This is something that has been on my mind for a while. I wanted to share it because I thought that it may be refreshing to hear. My life has changed dramatically over the last few years. For me, the tornado of life had to come and tear down the negative walls I built around me. My thoughts, my words, and actions were creating an existence far from God’s plan for my life. God spoke to me in whispers (compliments of Oprah Winfrey) but I continued to go about life the way I knew best.

I do believe that our negative thoughts manifest knowingly and subconsciously. Some of us sabotage everything in our lives because we expect bad things to happen. One of my favorite phrases was “I am so happy right now, so I know something bad is about to come.” I know I am not alone. I have heard this spoken by many. Well, if that is what you think, therefore it will be.

This concept is universal and can be found throughout great pieces of literature, even your bibles! I did not realize that I was writing the script of my life based on negative thoughts, and words! Did you hear what I said? I was writing the script of my life based on negative thoughts, and words! My world was slowly crashing around me! I was not aware of the madness I was creating and consequently was brought to a very low place. But it was in this low place that I realize that I was not living the life that God has promised me all along! In the book, the “Secret” the term “Universe” was used to describe the force that drove us to greatness. There are many terms used for this omniscient presence that we feel but do not see. For me God is the correct terminology.

It is good to know that you are not alone, and that your thoughts and feelings are being heard. Now what you decide to put out in the “Universe” is up to you! My life has changed dramatically just by changing the way I speak. I have noticed that by changing phrases like “I hope this will happen” to “This is happening” makes a world of difference in the goodness you bring into your life. Speak good things in your life as if they already are. I am not talking about superficial things that do not enrich your life! I am speaking on the goodness that comes from your core. I believe we all can feel it. We all have passions and gifts that are undeniable. If you are someone who says “Well, I don’t know what my gift is”; you may be blocking the flow of awareness with all the mess you have surrounding you!

Ask for wisdom and guidance. I am saying all of this to make the point that you can change the life that you are living right now. You can change it today by believing that you deserve what God wants for your life and believing it to be so. If you replace the negative thoughts and feelings with faith, I guarantee you will see a change in your life! Now, when I look back on the phrase I used to say, ““I am so happy right now, so I know something bad is about to come.”   I now see that I created that prophesy by speaking it into existence.

I now know that the company that I kept and the negative situations I found myself in were often a reflection of my own thoughts! Wow, I know that is some deep stuff and some may disagree. I just wanted to share what is working for me. I now practice speaking positivity in my life and I have witnessed the changes. I am watching my deepest inner thoughts become reality! Not everyone will listen to this, but for those who have faith, take heed to these words because they could change your life for the best! Remember to bare all, the truth is better naked!